I have been ranting over and over about our wedding this past week, and well, please don’t blame me for being overly cheesy. I have waited a long time to talk about this and I have been wanting to talk about this for some time now. Hahaha. Finally, the cat is out of the bag. I can’t even remember why I chose to be mum about it to begin with.
Anyway, I do have a few more tips to shell out, even though they are quite unsolicited. Planning and putting together this wedding was hard and a breeze at the same time; I could not have done it without the village that I had then and now.
We managed to keep to our budget and spent a little under $16,000, including honeymoon expenses. We had 112 guests at the wedding, and they were all fed and taken care of. I’m glad to hear until now that they had a really good time at our wedding. How did we do it?
- Our guest list was intimate. At first, it was hard because being Filipino, friends of friends of family of friends are always being suggested as invitees, but Le Mari actually gave a good position: invite the ones you know would be sad for missing your wedding. Don’t invite people who will be sad because they didn’t get an invite. After that, it just became easy. I knew and he knew who we wanted as witnesses to this union, and my inner introvert came out, and the list was the list. It started at 70, so having a list at 120 (8 couldn’t come) is already a stretch.
- There were a lot of craft parties. Now, not everyone is up for this. Come to think of it, you also have to compute the cost of raw materials, the food you’ll serve, and the time you and your party will consume. One of the main reasons why we did this is because our family is always meeting up. Our entourage is quite intimate especially the ones coming from the Philippines, so there was never any hesitation to rally and help me out. I am most grateful to them.
- Research your suppliers well. I found out about Roxy in my university’s forum, touting her as the next big wedding gown designer. They were right. There are a lot of budding talent looking to break into the wedding industry and they should be given a chance to. Of course, it’s a risk because their inexperience might reflect on their work, but they can also be your biggest surprise. I remember back then my cousin booked Jason Magbanua, and he was the only one doing SDEs. Now she proudly says she’s one of his first customers. You can be a building block to their success.
- We didn’t look for miracles. It’s true. We knew what our budget was so we didn’t go for Gideon Hermosa, or Jason Magbanua, or Ian Cruz, or Metrophoto… we knew what we can afford, and we settled. For some, the budget is adjustable. For us, it wasn’t. We knew that we would need the money as we would be starting out with me not having a job and therefore only on single income. What was important was to have a wedding that would be memorable to us and to our friends. And we nailed it.
- Patience is a virtue. The thing with budget wedding is having to look high and low for suppliers that meet your criteria and your pocket. So yeah, I am so grateful to my brothers for taking the time to take me anywhere just so I can find the best deals and discounts. My entourage, especially Marga my MOH, went above and beyond what is required. I’m just so grateful for our village really.
It was the perfect party, did you know? I can still replay everything in my head. I can’t even remember feeling so happy and so sad at the same time. Happy to be with the love of my life, and sad because I didn’t get to have my father-daughter dance. But our wedding was phenomenal. It truly was the best welcome to a new life for us both. I couldn’t ask for more.
How was your wedding? Do you have a dream wedding in mind?