The Cleaners

Walking around downtown Summit, the Husband and I stopped by Edible Arrangements to pick up my mother-in-law’s birthday gift.  He saw that it was right next to a dry cleaner and inquired if they can stitch on patches.  The guy said yes.

Me:  *looks at store hours*  You can drop it off before you go to work.
Husband:  Oh yeah.

At home…

Husband:  *lays out gi and patch*  It should go nicely here, right below the stitching at the back.
Me:  I agree.  And they open at 7 too, so you can drop it off in the morning.
Husband:  Yeah, and pick it up on my way home.

This morning…

Me:  *sees gi on couch* Oh you’re attending jiu jitsu tonight?
Husband:  No, I’m having the patch stitched on today.
Me:  Okay.  Drop it off before you go to work, so you can pick it up at lunch or on your way home.
Husband:  Opo (Filipino for yes.)

When I get to the office…

Husband:  Aw man.  The dry cleaner is open at 7!
Me:  I TOLD YOU.
Husband:  I got here early too.  Got breakfast and got to the parking lot 15 minutes early.  I could have dropped it off.
Me:  I KNOW.  I TOLD YOU SO.

Oh my heart.

Face Palm

TALK TUESDAY: A Saturday with a Gracie

Right before we headed out for a quick visit with friends in Maryland, the husband just had to attend a seminar at AllStar MMA Training Facility, his bjj home school.  He said he must attend because Gregor Gracie is teaching.  Now, being the dutiful wife, I immediately looked him up.  His last name is Gracie, so I already know he’s a very big deal.  The husband has Gracie in his Youtube history, AllStar is a Gracie school, and my brother-in-law’s gi has Gracie all over it.  So yeah, I know he’s a big deal.  I just needed to see how much.

So this was the top search result from BJJ Heroes:

Gregor Rangel, also known as Gregor “Gracie” is a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu black belt under Renzo Gracie and a former world champion in the lower belt divisions who also successfully ventured into mixed martial arts (MMA). Gregor is not a member of the Gracie family by blood, but is the half brother of Rolles and Igor Gracie, both sons of the legendary Rolls Gracie. Gregor has also competed in freestyle wrestling with a notable win over Darryl Christian, a highly accomplished wrestler.

Wow.  It doesn’t end there.  This is a list of his main achievements:

World Champion (2004 & 2005 purple)
Pan American Champion (2006 brown)
Brazilian National Champion (2005 purple)
Brazilian National Teams Champion (2003 blue, 2004 purple)
Grapplers Quest Champion (4x)
World No-Gi Championship 2nd Place (2008)
World Master Championship 2nd Place (2016 Master 1)
ADCC 3rd Place (2009)
Pan American 2nd Place (2001 blue)

Thoroughly impressed with his resumé, I asked the school if I can come in and take some pictures of the seminar.  They were kind enough to let me in, and the seminar started at their neighbor mat Apex Wrestling School.  Starting the afternoon with men grappling on the floor was something new for me, and this one will be counted as a good learning experience.

Gregor Gracie and Professor Jamal Patterson of AllStar MMA

The seminar started with Gregor (I feel so close to him now that we are on first-name basis) showing a sweep from standing.  At least that’s what I heard.

He emphasized the importance of form.  One thing that I truly appreciate about jiu jitsu is the fact that each movement leverages on the response of your body without having to exert brute force.  With a thrust of the hip coming from bent knees and feet together, Gregor shows how easily a lift can be done.

Like a regular class, the group broke up in pairs to begin their drills.

Ever the observant teacher, Gregor walks the mat to observe each student.

I very rarely get the terms correct for this lifestyle.  So you can never imagine my joy when I correctly identified the spider guard!  Gregor exhibited a number of passes and sweeps from the spider guard.

Hi, husband. 😍

The seminar ran for almost two hours.  At the end, Gregor opened the floor for some more questions and clarifications on any other topic under the sun.

Someone asked what is the best advice Gregor can give for those starting to join the competition circuit.  His advice was very practical:  warm up correctly.  He pointed out that once you’ve loosened up and sweated out, you are just going to fall in the groove when competition starts.  It doesn’t make sense to be tired from a 5-minute round; you’ve rolled longer than that.  You’re tired because you didn’t warm up correctly and your body is tight, forcing its way to the roll.  If you warmed up correctly, say an hour or so before you compete, you go into the mat as a well-oiled machine.

Gregor also explained his perspective about competitions.  He said winning and losing are mere consequences.  What one should be concerned about is if he/she competed well.  Were you a good competitor?  Did you give your opponent a challenge?  Did you give your best?  If the answer is yes, then whatever the consequence may be — win or lose — you got what you came for in that competition.  You’ve competed and you did it well.

At the end of the class, Professor Jamal thanked Gregor for gracing his school.  Did I mention they go way back?  Like I said, in jiu jitsu, you gain a family FOR LIFE.

I wish more students took advantage of this opportunity, to learn from a seasoned fighter.  It’s not everyday you get to have a Gracie correct and complement your form, give you life advice and praise your performance.  Perhaps more schools should communicate with each other more, so that they are aware of every seminar and visit that can benefit them in more ways than you can count.

We probably wrapped up a little after 3 in the afternoon.  Looking at the GPS, it would take us 3.5 hours to get to Maryland, and we’ll probably arrive closer to 8pm.  Maybe we’ll be late for dinner, maybe we’ll hit traffic at Delaware.  It didn’t matter.  It was totally worth it.

 

Living the Life of A Jiu Jitsu Wife

When I got back together with my then-boyfriend-now-husband in 2013, one of the things that he has never stopped raving about was Brazilian jiu jitsu, or BJJ as it is more popularly known.  Actually, when he first started proposing that we get back together early that year, he has expressed, consistently and with gusto, that bjj is his passion.  So, being the curious cat that I am, I looked it up.

At that point, all I knew about bjj is the jj part of it:  the use of technical grappling to submit an opponent regardless of weight and build.  True enough, I was close to the money.  The Brazilian aspect I just had to learn over the years.  To be honest, I haven’t stopped learning about it even.  The names Gracie, Barra, Marcelo, Miyao have become normal fixtures of our conversations.  I can’t believe I’m even into UFC now, and sometimes even see myself checking out schedules of local BJJF tourneys that the husband can participate in.  I didn’t fully comprehend how much bjj is a part of our life until we got married and started living together.

Monday, foundations class.  Tuesday, no gi.  Wednesday, advanced class.  Thursday, intermediate class.  Friday, foundations and open mat.  Saturdays, open mat.  Sundays, open mat.  I’m not saying he’s attending all these classes, but I am also not saying that that has not happened.  Hahaha.  The husband spends at least an hour and 30 minutes in the AllStar MMA Training Facility, bringing along his brother and his childhood friend in the mix.


It’s not easy being a bjj wife.  Truthfully speaking, it’s still not any easy even though my enthusiasm for it has significantly grown.  I am only a year or so into this marriage and already, I have these lessons nailed down for me.

  1. Find the time to watch your partner train.  Since I am (still) unemployed, the husband would take me to his school where I would wait for him as he trains.  A lot of people often wonder why I have to go.  Well, for one, you would want to see your partner in action.  It’s a beautiful sight, watching someone do what he/she loves.  Second, he spends a lot of time in this school.  That and juggling two jobs, watching him train is quality time.  Last and certainly not the least, you can take videos of him training, videos that he will watch back during his lunchtime at work so he can see where else he can improve.  In the simple act of observation, you are becoming a better partner that helps him work on his passion.  You don’t have to come every single time.  I’m just saying a visit won’t hurt every once in a while.

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  2. You will have a bjj family.  There will be other wives there, waiting on the same thing.  Chances are, the school will also have children’s classes.  So your sons, daughters, nephews and nieces will share some playtime after class.  The cuts and bruises and injuries will all likely be the same, so you share remedies, quick fixes of all sorts.  You alert each other when there’s a gi on sale or when someone’s competing this weekend.  Your bjj family will become such a part of your life.  They will be your co-cheerleaders, your co-nurses and co-therapists, your post-fight meal buddies, your family in every sense of the word.
    The BJJ Wives. These are just a few actually, just the Filipino delegates. LOL. There's more of us, more than you can imagine.

    The BJJ Wives. These are just a few actually, just the Filipino delegates. LOL. There’s more of us, more than you can imagine.

     

  3. Learn how to massage.  It doesn’t have to be a perfect massage and it doesn’t have to be applied to everyone you know.  Chances are your partner will always have that one ache in his/her back or shoulders or hips.  Just know what pressure he/she prefers and at what part of his/her body.  I myself have spent countless hours rubbing that tight spot by his right hip or the curve by his neck and shoulders, and I have been complemented (by him of course) that that was better than Icy Hot or Bengay.
  4. Accept the ear, among others.  This ear.  Yes.  It is inevitable.  That will blow up.  And to the bjj learner, that is a badge of honor.  The symbol of all the hours of hard work on the mat.  The proof that they are trying to teach as much as they have learned.  There will also be bruises that look like hickies, especially during the week when they’re drilling chokes.  Their biceps will always have those dotted bruises from their partners’ grips.  Get used to calluses too, and finger joints that slowly swell up; practicing gi grip basics will do that to you.  Some bruises will even go as high as the upper inner thigh.  When you see them practicing spider guards, you’ll understand where it comes from.  Sooooooo yeah.  You just have to accept it.  I, however, have chosen to negotiate a level of bloatedness before I insist on having his ear drained.  We are yet to come to an agreement.
    It's not anywhere near BJ Penn's ears, but I have a feeling it will be.

    It’s not anywhere near BJ Penn’s ears, but I have a feeling it will be.

     

  5. Prepare to lose tickle fights.  They will always be more limber than you.  Remember, your partner is learning the extent to which he can maneuver his physical ability.  It is technical learning.  It’s quite improbable to win a tickle fight even if you know that tickle spot.  It will not weaken your partner.  He/She will only rise and find a different way to get to you.  They train JIU JITSU.  They’re conditioning reflexes that will allow them to escape the most uncomfortable positions ever known to man.  Restricted breathing is a normal thing for them.  That’s all they do, find a different way to get to their opponent.  So yeah, a win on a tickle fight is highly improbable, even for a white belt.

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  6. It’s okay to not take up bjj yourself.  Each time I’m at the school waiting for him, people would just tell me to join.  Personally, bjj is yet to tickle my fancy.  You know that saying do what you love and you’ll never have to work a day in your life?  It’s true for this too.  Bjj takes you down so many notches, that some who tried it never came back.  I like bjj, but I don’t love it yet.  I’m sure I’ll get there, and so will you.  There’s no rush though.  Like what my husband always says, the mats are always there for you when you’re ready. 

    Someone has to take the picture right? 😜

    Someone has to take the picture right? 😜

  7. Do not forget the importance of the two Hs:  Hygiene and Hydration.  Since immersing myself truly in being a bjj wife, I have come to resent the smell of bleach.  Hahahaha.  It’s true.  But the husband rolls with different people who sweat differently than him on mats that have been used by a different class already.  So cleanliness is imperative.  For his gi and training rash clothes, we use OdoBan.  Lysol has been a permanent resident in the car.  Anything that touches his post training self, you must disinfect.  That includes the jacket he puts over his rash guard because he’s in a rush to go home and didn’t have time to shower in the gym.  And that towel he lays out on the driver seat.  And because training makes him sweat a lot, it’s important to always have water on your person or in his bag.  They train so hard, most of them don’t remember to drink, and they end up dehydrated.  Remind them to drink as much as they sweat.

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    Side note:  he does his own bjj laundry.  I just guarantee his laundry supplies.  I personally hate the smell of bleach, especially because it doesn’t help the gi too.  While it does disinfect, it also weakens the weave, making it deteriorate faster than it should.  Anyone who has gis know how expensive they can get.  Anyone who trains also knows what it’s like to have that one favorite set that fits you just right and conforms to your body and movement the way you want to.  So take care of it.  Another winning solution is distilled white vinegar.  Dump a cup or so during the soak cycle, and the detergent will rinse that smell right off.

  8. Bjj will always be a topic of conversation in any space at any time thru any medium.  Dinner with friends.  Picnic with family.  Cuddle time in bed.  Youtube videos.  Articles.  Jiu jitsu times.  Text messages.  Chats.  Everywhere.  Bjj will be everywhere.  Ready yourself and read up on it too.  A subscription to Flo Grappling may even be imperative.  Count on bathroom time to be slightly longer than usual, because if there was a Pan Championship, Worlds, or Abu Dhabi World Pro broadcast over the weekend, they will be catching up on it, if they or one of their peers haven’t hosted a viewing party yet.

    You are not required to be well versed about it.  Just know enough that when they talk about it with you, your eyes won’t glaze over and your mind won’t drift off.  Being able to put a picture to the term “bow and arrow” or “guillotine” that doesn’t fall into historical context will greatly encourage your partner to share more of what he does with you.  I’m sure you can imagine the joy of having to talk to someone who knows what ‘s on your mind.  My contributions to the conversation started out with “Did you know Anthony Bourdain is a blue belt?!” to “Demi Lovato just started bjj!”  Hahahaha.  My contributions will get better over time.  Stock up on it.  Surprise your partner with a bjj conversation and watch that light in him brighten up his face.  It is a wonderful thing to witness.

    Our niece goes to AllStar too, and is currently a grey-white belt holder. For her kindergarten graduation photo with her uncle, they decided to show how to do a proper choke.

    Our niece goes to AllStar too, and is currently a grey-white belt holder. For her kindergarten graduation photo with her uncle, they decided to show how to do a proper choke.

  9. Celebrate every milestone.  Did he get a stripe?  Have dinner out.  Did he get a belt promotion?  Take loads of pictures.  Get that bubble tea.  Every milestone in this lifestyle (yes, bjj is not just a sport) counts big time because you will never know when the next one would be.  I was so bummed when I wasn’t there when he got his purple belt, but it also made sense.  He was with his peers, it was given to him by one of his favorite professors, and he shone all on his own.  I couldn’t have been more proud.
    After almost five years of training, he got his purple belt last February 7 and presented it to me like flowers.

    After almost five years of training, he got his purple belt last February 7 and presented it to me like flowers.

     

  10. You are not and never will be in competition with bjj.  This, I am still learning.  Time training is not time away from you.  It’s simply time training.  Do not be the person that makes his/her partner choose between his passion and the love of his life.  My husband always says if I tell him to not go train, he won’t go.  But I’ve always known I can easily be the bad guy by preventing him from doing what he loves.  While his hours of training did start to bother me at some point, I have to admit he comes home with a happier disposition.  Whatever is stressing you out, leave it to the mats, they always say.  And he does.  Bjj is such a healthy release once I focused on how good it makes them feel overcoming their physical limits.

    Our mothers would always tell me to talk him out of competing.  It’s hard though, because while there is always an elevated level of risk during competitions, there’s also an elevated sense of accomplishment for the both of us.  Remember, YOU are the partner.  You share half of this journey.  And it really is a journey.  A journey of cutting weight for competition.  A journey of finding alternative proteins and embarking a fibrous diet.  A journey of looking up mouthguards and getting excited for gi deals on Fighter’s Market.  A journey of 8 matches happening all at the same time and you and your bjj family divide up and cheer on each teammate.  Don’t get lost in all the hustle and bustle of this lifestyle.  It’s a good one, the kind that shapes a person wholly.  Believe me, you are not in competition with that.  You are a quite a big part of it.

 

I do not claim to know it all when it comes to supporting my husband in bjj.  There will always be room to grow.  Maybe one day I’ll even join him on the mats and see what the fuss is all about.  But for now, I take so much pleasure watching him come home with a swollen eye, slightly limping, all sweaty, with that stupid grin on his face, saying “I almost tapped out today, it was amazing.”

 

Clean Up Time!

One of the things that I had to thoroughly adjust to when I moved here is my skincare routine.  All my life, I’ve lived on a tropical island.  My hair have had natural volume for as long as I can remember, and my skin with a light sheen from the humidity.  But here, it is a completely different thing.

Winter was the worst.  I have never experienced such polarities in my entire life!  One day, my skin is as dry as powder and cracking, the next day it goes hyper oily.  Honestly, I’ve never even broken out for the longest time, but it all changed when I got here.  So that was the priority:  get a skincare regimen in order.

I do this routine once a week, and so far, my face is liking it.  I wash my face with Neutrogena Oil-Free Acne Wash, 6 Ounce, rinsing it off with warm water.  It leaves my skin feeling refreshed, it’s unscented, and it comes off easily, so I’m never really worried about residue.

This facial wash really helped controlling my breakouts.  I found most products here in the US to be quite harsh, but Neutrogena has served me well so far.

After rinsing, I put on this glorious mask.  It’s always part of Amazon’s Best Sellers, and if you’re an Amazon fan, I’m pretty sure you’ve seen this around.

This mask can easily be applied, but once I left the lid slightly open and the edges hardened.  Hahahaha.  So always take care of your product.  That way, it can take care of you.  😉

Pure Body Naturals Beauty Dead Sea Mud Mask for Facial Treatment, 250g / 8.8 fl.oz needs to be left on for at least 15 minutes.  I usually leave it on for 20, but that’s because I wait for everything to completely dry out.  Rinse with warm water and pat dry.  AND I MEAN JUST PAT.  I dried off overzealously before and it left some red streaks across my face.

WORD OF CAUTION WITH THE MUD MASK!!!!  You have to make sure that your sink is cleared of all its residue.  Once, I forgot to drain it completely and the mud mask residue got stuck on the sink.  Hahahaha.  Don’t worry it comes off with warm water and a light scrubbing!  It’s just a morbid scene to wake up to.

A zit still pops out every now and then, but they don’t come in droves anymore.  When one shows up, I make sure that I cover it up with Nexcare Acne Absorbing Cover, Two Sizes, 36 Count.  It dries up the zit overnight and it doesn’t have to swell up so noticeably anymore!  It’s such a joy.  I used the same product back in my home country and I’m so happy I found the same one here.

The mask helped in refining some laugh lines (since I’ve been using it for the past 6 months), and it never fails to leave me feeling clean and moisturized.  I still put on a pea sized amount of moisturizer, but not immediately after the mask.  I cherish the smoothness and cleanliness of my skin for a good five minutes or so.  Hahahaha.

There you go!  What’s your skin cleansing routine?

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No Meat Challenge Week 1: What Went Down

Survived the first week of No Meat Challenge!  I have to be very thankful for the fact that there weren’t that many cravings this week.  Fate is good to me.  Really really good.

For this week, this is the general tone of my meals:

Breakfast:  1 bowl Nestle Fitnesse Cereals OR 2 eggs and toast, 1 glass of nonfat milk
AM Snack:  1 banana, 1 apple OR high fiber crackers and orange juice
Lunch:  Tuna sandwich OR green salad with vinaigrette and feta cheese
PM Snack:  1 banana
Dinner:  Vegeroni pasta with pre-made sauce OR bowl of fruit and glass of nonfat milk
Indulgence:  1 Venti Starbucks Nonfat Latte, iced, with hazelnut

It’s still pretty boring at this point.  I didn’t really take the time to prepare for this challenge beforehand, so I had to settle for these things, most of them bought from the store.  I’ve read enough to know that if you didn’t make them, you don’t know what’s in them.  While there are some reputable brands that truly advocate clean and healthy eating, I can’t really say that access to those is easy here in the Philippines.  Not even in Makati, the central business district, where I work.

What I lacked in meal planning, I made up for working out.

This is my morning routine:

I especially liked this workout because it’s quiet.  My room is partly carpeted so it already absorbs a lot of the noise.  But still my mom sleeps sooo lightly, so this version really helps.  It doesn’t deprive you of the burn too.

Don’t forget this quick challenge!  Will definitely give you a good burn.

5 minute butt burner

For after office, I had about three days doing this combo:  some fun cardio, and butt and leg.

I have no other choice but to admit that Just Dance is fun!  It’s all because of my nephews and nieces.  It really can be addicting.  It wasn’t even until this year did I find out that there’s a workout option.  Unfortunately for me, I don’t have an XBox or a Wii to work with, but these videos helped just as much.

There is some downtime too.  I attended a yoga class sponsored by our company on Tuesday.  I’m quite lucky to have that option; I know these fitness programs are not a staple for all companies.  Because these are blast exercises, I was able to complete the four hours without taking too much of my time.  It doesn’t make me feel any less worked out though, however I do admit that at some point, I have to add more intensity to these workouts.  For now, you can only imagine how happy I am to have this rest weekend.

I did cheat.  I will not lie.  Being unprepared for this challenge grocery wise means you’re bound to run out of cereals at some point.  And I can’t imagine downing oatmeal, at least not yet.  But I had a couple of bites of a frankfurter and I confess to having done that and now it’s behind me so let’s move past it.  HAHAHA.

So… how was your week? :)