TALK TUESDAY: Having an unplugged wedding

Did I mention that we had an unplugged wedding?  At the doors of the church, our coordinators and junior bridesmaids handed out these notice cards to our guests:

When I first pitched the idea to the husband, he was immediately all for it.  My mother, not so much.  She pointed out that it will be inevitable that people will whip out their phones and tablets and cameras and just take a snapshot of everything.  I know what she meant; I myself have a hard time putting my phone down.  But I was adamant.

Of course, our wedding is not my first wedding.  I have seen so many, and in the recent past, two of which were my close friends’.  Both were grand celebrations, and everyone seemed to be present.  They had hashtags and everything, so that anything posted on social media about weddings will be publicly curated.  I did this too, and it really was great seeing everyone else’s perspective of our special day.

Anyway, the guests were taking photos of everything — flowers, each other, selfies — and then the entourage started walking.  It was marvelous.  You know you’re about to see something special when each participant is a build up to something better.  Then the doors opened.  The bride’s silhouette made everyone gasp in awe.  It was just like in the story books.

But it completely SUCKED A** for the photographer and videographer.  Everyone had their own phones, cameras, Go Pros and what not blocking their line of sight.  I swear I even saw a couple of the crew visibly and verbally irritated.  Some of them even asked the guests to move out of the way so they can catch that moment, and the guests had the gall to be annoyed that they’re being asked to move!

At that moment, all I could think of was the money the couple paid for the professionals to take pictures and videos of their special day. True, in the end, they made it work, but honestly, not without extreme effort.  There was even a wedding I attended that there were so many phone up, the videographer couldn’t see the groom’s face when he first saw the bride.  He had to make do by capturing a tablet capturing the groom’s face.

It was such a distraction.  I felt so bad for the photographers and videographers.  It was at that point that I decided that for our wedding, we’ll have everyone turn off their devices, at least during the ceremony.  Right off the bat, our coordinator and my mother immediately said this will be difficult to pull off, especially at this day and age where it is just automatic for people to whip out their phones at any god given time.  But we made it work.  And thanks to completely cooperative guests, everything was pulled off perfectly.

Guests, please take note. Jaraaaan! #carlallanwed

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Not a single phone or tablet in sight. Our families and guests were amazing. They truly made our day special.

It was almost a special gift to our suppliers.  No distractions, no need for body contortions, because the space was open and free for them to take photos and videos of our special day.

I know how important it is to have your own memento of things and events that had happened in your life.  I know because I too am an enthusiast of taking photos.  You can check out my almost 3,000 photos on Instagram, and even on Snapchat.  I take a lot of photos and make sure that they’re properly framed so they’re deserving to be exhibited on my feed.  But us, the to-be-married couple, we’re right in front of you.  You can see us live and alive, exchanging our vows and very much in the moment.  Why would you settle for the small screen?

Our journey as a couple is filled with Facetime, selfies, chats, numerous text messages and email journals even.  For once, it was nice to not have those things in the way and just be present.  Believe us when we say real life is a million times better.

It did result in fewer public posts in our social media feed, but we didn’t care.  I’d like to believe (and as what most of our guests have shared after the festivities) that everyone was moved because everyone paid attention, and listened, and was completely present.  Now, that was truly a moment to remember.

I survived winter!

One of the most drastic changes about migrating to the other side of the world?  The weather.

I first experienced snow last year, when Jonas welcomed me with 36 inches.  My husband was shoveling and I was just jumping on the icy clouds that fell on our driveway and around my feet.  He kept saying that I won’t enjoy it for long, especially seeing it turn into slush.  He also says anyone who drives doesn’t really enjoy snow that much, given the amount of cleanup that happens before you can actually drive your car.

I am enjoying it though.  I really am!  But my physical body doesn’t.  Here are the stuff that I’ve needed for surviving the winter.  It took me a while to find the one that meshed with me the best, but hey!  Now that my second one is about to end, I have to pat myself in the back for not having repeated mishaps from last year.

  1.  Burt’s Bees Lip Balm.  I prefer the beeswax flavor (I believe it’s the original one) because it has healed my lips so fast and has prevented them from cracking.  I tried a different brand last year, but it didn’t moisturize as much.  Plus, I love the tingly minty feeling it leaves on my lips.  It is also a good base for my lipstick.

  2. UGG Boots.  This, I completely owe to my sister Mel.  Last year, I survived with something similar, and I thought, hey I don’t need those booths after all.  But when she gifted me my first pair this year, boy was I wrong.  My feet were warm and toasty, I had perfect balance thanks to the soles that prevented me from slipping, and it keeps me dry!  So dry!  I love it.

  3. Aquaphor Advanced Therapy Healing Ointment.  My skin dries up so fast that most of the time, regular lotion doesn’t quite cut it.  This ointment has helped the skin around my nails from cracking.  I’ve also been urging my husband to use it for his hands too, as he constantly soaps and washes his hands at work, giving him EXTREMELY dry hands.  Also, I slather this baby on my feet, especially my cracked heels, at night.  With the help of a good ol’ pair of socks, my skin is now on its way to being baby smooth.

  4. That one coat that goes everywhere anytime.  Again, a pro tip from my sister Mel.  You must have that one coat that you can throw on and brave the cold winds with.  It’s just that one coat that keeps you warm as you get from Point A to B.

  5. A hair dryer.  This, I learned the hard way.  I thought they were just kidding when they said you’ll get sick when you go out during winter with wet hair.  So of course, I tested the waters.  After coming down with the flu and a sore throat that put me out of commission for at least a week (and no appetite for almost 5 days!), I now realize the importance of the hair dryer my husband got me.  I do cheat still, from time to time, and not completely dry my hair.  But keeping my scalp as dry as possible, and maybe the ends just slightly damp, I haven’t been down that long since.

 

You may need more than the five items on this list, like thicker socks, gloves, and maybe a hat.  But so far, these essentials are all I’ve needed.  I can’t really speak of experience of course, since I’ve only been here for two winters.  I’m pretty sure I’ll have a more expanded list in the future, especially when the husbands starts to ask me to help him shovel.  Hahaha.  Until then, I’ll just have all these in handy.

How was your winter?

 

#VBxTarget is a sign that spring has sprung

I usually don’t go for long titles, but I couldn’t help it.  When Victoria Beckham first announced her collaboration with Target, I knew I would need to have at least a piece of what she’s offering.  Then when she elaborated that it’ll be a 200+ piece collection, costing no more than $70, I KNEW I HAVE TO HAVE MORE THAN ONE.

The mild heart attack I got when I first saw her lookbook was because the collection was every bit Victoria Beckham but the price of Target.  I think most of the looks were under $40!  She wasn’t kidding when she said that she wants those who usually cannot afford her items to have a piece of her brilliance.

AND ALL OF IT IS BRILLIANT.

I told the husband that I will be shopping at least two looks, and I can’t help but ignore that worried brow when he said, “Okay.”  Hahaha.  Every dress tickled my fancy; for a moment, I was so vain to think she’s designed for my favorite silhouette!

With all the clothes she has put together, I know these are my must haves:

Because it’s friggin spring

I have the fondest memories of culottes.

My most favorite silhouette ever

EVERYTHANG ABOUT THIS

Because legs.

And I still live for green.

What about you?  Check out her entire lookbook here!