Malta, the super kaduper Catholic state, has officially legalized divorce. The Prime Minister made his announcement early this week and well… he said this:
This is not the result that I wished for, but the will of the people has to be respected and parliament should enact a law for the introduction of divorce.
THE WILL OF THE PEOPLE. I wonder if this is a factor at all that influences our lawmakers in authoring their bills ang legislations.
I think I’ve made it clear but I’ll say it again: I AM FOR THE RH BILL. I’ve watched debates and grew frustrated that these platforms were not used well by the anti-RH bill crew to at least give me second thoughts. One even said, “Mahirap ba tayo dahil marami tayo? (Are we poor because we are many?)” I just found that statement so ridiculous.
First of all, no one in this country is unaware of the corruption and ill-fated attitude of people in power. And I mean no one. Even my cousin would know that our public officials are corrupt (generally speaking). And she’s just a tween. Also, no one is denying the fact that this is an illness we have to cure. By we, I mean everyone. From the jeepney drivers who refuse to give change to the bus drivers to fake their fare tables, from the teller that prioritizes her coworkers’ deposit and withdrawals to the sari-sari store owner who discounts checks of unbanked individuals. Everyone.
But say, this is cured and by some miracle of God and fate and every single destiny indicator, our government in 100% responsible for accounting 100% of the people’s money. Do you really think our funds will be enough for our ever growing population? Do you really think that the allocation will be sufficient for everyone? The funds, whether it is complete and uncorrupted or not, will be spread too thinly and the quality of life and welfare of the people will be subpar.
This is the argument that anti-RH people keep saying. They insist that corruption is the problem so that’s the evil we have to solve. That has been the problem since Rizal can write, and he wrote for a very long time. Even 300 years of oppression did not guarantee the fullness of our freedom. The Americans came, then the Japanese, then the Americans came back and camped at our backyard until today. This is the kind of disease that needs LONG TERM CARE. Overpopulation does not have to be the same thing.
They say contraceptives can heighten cancer among women. No one has ever denied that fact. But, when administered properly and by a physician, pituitary glands won’t be overloaded and women will have safer options in family planning.
They’re all so afraid of getting sick and dying that they never really thought we’re not living the life we deserve right now. Everyone will die. That’s a constant thing in life. Death and taxes, as they say. So why are they so afraid of it? Why are they not afraid of being dead while still living? Of breathing but not really alive?
Then the divorce matter came to light. To be honest, this is the one thing I am completely in the grays about. I am for divorce and against it too. Against it, because I still believe in the teachings of the Bible:
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother, and the two will become one flesh. so they are no longer two, but one flesh. therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. (Mark 10:7-9, NET)
I am still the romantic person, the for better or for worse, the as long as we both shall live person. I still believe in that. But the world we live in now makes it hard to believe in happily ever afters.
What about the victims of domestic abuse? Marital rape? Abandoned women? What about the kids that had to grow up with parents constantly expressing their desir for the other to drop dead? What about the damaged home? The abusive father? The pedophile? The incest? The other lover? What about those people? Is that the extent of the worst? Is that the kind of worst that, when surpassed, the partnership should continue to love and cherish till the end of their days?
Of course some people can be quick to rush into marriage and of course, divorce is the quickie solution. 50% of marriages in the US end up in divorce and families there are far more complicated than families here because we are profamily and the fact that we remain as the only state that has not legalized divorce makes us a unique country, as Archbishop Cruz has said.
Really? But what about the damaged people? The trapped people in a loveless marriage? Sure we can still say that our value for family is present, but what about love? What if in the process of bearing the worst and the sickness and the poverty, the love left? Is that still a marriage? Or rather, is that still a family or just a couple with kids?
I’m completely on the fence here because I am enamored by the idea of spending the rest of my life with one person. But I also feel the tragedy of the women and men I know who are trapped in these situations. I believe they deserve a second chance at a happy life with the person that they love and truly loves them back. But I am scared that once divorce is an option, together forever happily ever after might not be anymore.
I don’t know. It’s a loaded morning for me. What do you think?