How did you move on from him?
Complete total silence. In and out. It’s been over a year, you know.
No communication whatsoever?
None. But it was a choice that I made. We both made, I think.
Did he try to win you back?
For a moment, but then when I look back, though it appears to some that he tried, he never really said anything.
How long did you suffer the feeling of pain?
Long. A bit of it is still with me today.
Are you bitter towards him? Is that normal?
Yes, it’s normal and yes, I’m still bitter. It was a long time that went to nothing. It felt like my youth was wasted.
Do you still love him?
Yes. The sad kind. The one that when I feel it, I become resentful and morose.
I’m going through the same. I’m trying to be okay though.
Just give yourself a good period to be sad.
We don’t have closure. I think I need that to let things go. To hear him say he’s sorry. Did you feel that way?
For me, I was hurt too much too long. I did not want to need anything from him, so that made it easier to not look for closure, or anything else from him, for that matter.
Will this sad, bitter feeling go away?
Of course. Give it time. All you need to move forward is in you. Unless you realize that, you will always be stuck in that space. You will always need something that he will not or cannot give. And you don’t want to be the kind of person who needs something from someone else to move forward.
It’s been three months. I find it too long. I’ve never been this bitter.
It’s been 16 months for me. I’m not as angry. But I am still bitter.
Don’t rush it. You might miss steps, making it harder to recover.